I was recently thinking of a time a couple of years ago. We delivered gifts to one family on a Friday evening, over in Minneapolis. They lived on the upper floor of an older duplex. 2 of the kids met us at the door at the bottom of the stairs and we carried the first arm loads upstairs. At the top of the stairs was the very nice woodwork, wood flooring, wooden archways you’re accustomed to seeing in those early 20th century homes. Immediately at the top of the stairs was a large living room and another large living room space in the middle of the house. Aside from the old radiator heater, there was an old loveseat and a couch in the first room overlooking the street. No rugs, no curtains, no end table, coffee table, pictures… nothing. A 4-year-old slept on the couch and didn’t wake up as we came thru chatting. Through the wonderful old dark wood arch was the second, nearly identically sized large room with 2 closed doors on the left wall with a good space between them. I suppose these went to a bath and a bedroom. There was one open doorway on the far end of the room which I suppose went to the kitchen as it had no door. In this spacious room was only a 3 foot tall pine tree on the floor between those two doors on the left. No decorations, just a tree. No rug again, no chair, couch, table, end table, pictures, curtains…. nothing in the room… just that tree… which at that size it would’ve fit on a table, but there was no table, so there it was, on the floor.
Standing between the rooms with my hands full of gifts, it didn’t seem necessary to ask where to put them, but I did just the same. The pre-teen kids made a couple trips back downstairs with us to get the rest. When we were done, the pile of gifts eclipsed the small tree. You couldn’t see it anymore. It was a stark picture. The empty room with now a pile of Christmas gifts on the floor on the left side of this big empty room. I turned around to face the first large room and the two couches, the 4-year-old was still sleeping somehow. She’s gonna wake up and truly think Santa was there while she slept.
This was the family where the grandmother had just “rescued” her grandkids from a tough situation out of state and was now caring for them. They had nothing. I made a comment on the t-shirt the boy was wearing, a band name on the front he couldn’t possibly know of as it was from my era. I was excited and asked where he got the shirt thinking it would come with a story about some uncle or someone he knew who saw the band. I don’t remember if it was his grandma or him that offered “WalMart. 4 dollars.” Oh, yes, of course. The kid was wearing clothes, not making a statement. He really didn’t have the luxury of making a statement. They were just clothes…. from WalMart.
I couldn’t think of anything else to give them so I gave the boy who helped us the Santa hat I was wearing. Juli gave hers to the girl. Maybe THAT will be a story he tells someone when he’s older and can return the favor to someone else. Meanwhile, the 4-year-old never woke up. Grandma was in tears, thankful. As an aside to this story, grandma didn’t sign up to be on the list to receive gifts, someone had done it for her. She was surprised and beyond grateful. The families are without exception, blown away by the generosity of strangers to them. It ultimately, IS what Christmas is about.
These people have nothing. Most of us have cell phones, cable tv, cars and we don’t think twice about it and worry about what vacation we’d like or boat or whatever toy… we are so fortunate that way. We worry about wants. This family literally, has almost nothing. It is, like every year, humbling and gives me a sense of how blessed we are and makes me feel guilty for complaining about anything.
I don’t know if it’s because I’ve been around so long now or because it really was a more difficult year this year for families here losing loved ones. I’d also like to say a few words to those families who’ve lost a loved one, because sadly, that person won’t be here to gather over the holiday. It is the toughest time of year for you. It feels like there’s nothing left in your tank. It’s hard to feel merry and like celebrating when it feels like there’s a big hole right in the middle of your Christmas wreath. Well, the same spirit that was gift giving for those families we ‘adopted’, is in all the people around you. Everyone really wants to help. Even though you don’t feel like it, please allow others to ‘gift’ you with a visit and their presence. It will not fill the hole. It will build a bridge over it so you can carry on. You won’t forget. The hole is still there. This won’t be the last holiday you work at celebrating without them. Let your friends and family carry you. We got this one.
Some readers may remember my e-mail immediately following the Aurora Colorado theater shooting during a Batman movie some time ago. In that email I made the point that the person who shot all the moviegoers was sick and disconnected from not only himself but the rest of humanity. You would simply have to be disconnected to do such a thing. In my opinion, this would not have happened if he was raised with chiropractic care and I will tell you why.
That email lives in infamy on Theskeptic.com, under the title “One Good Chiropractor and an X-ray Could’ve Prevented Aurora Shooting”. Apparently forwarded by one of my readers who doesn’t share my worldview and enjoined but a host of skeptics. Our phone was ringing asking for the “Batman Chiropractor”, I got lots of emails and nasty responses. It’s the world we live in now. I’m perfectly willing to wither skeptics if someone else can benefit and be who they were destined to be instead of a wasted life and taking others with him. So, here’s another attempt.
Most of you know I lost my parents and 3 sisters from a car accident the first day of summer vacation at the end of 7th grade. I’m no stranger to trauma and loss. These events trigger those feelings for me. My passion for doing something for the people who’ve suffered a loss is maybe higher than most others. So, in addition to praying for the families that have suffered a loss from the crazy guy(s) in a window in Las Vegas, I have a deep-seated desire to do something constructive. But, what can I do?
I could advocate for gun laws. However, I personally hold no hope that the populace can be disarmed. Also, crazy guy could’ve accomplished pretty much the same thing with a pickup truck driven through a crowd. Nobody’s going to advocate a ban on pickups to stop the madness. The event was not driven by the availability of a tool for destruction. Though no one can argue the availability of efficient weapons makes anyone who is crazy, far more dangerous to the rest of us. The event was caused by an individual’s screwed up perception of his environment. Perceiving other people as a threat to him personally or his worldview.
I would like to do something to prevent this from happening again. What is going to make a difference? If you understand that the physiology that causes stress to the level that you think other innocents are a threat to you, comes from an inability to comprehend and respond accurately to your environment, you might consider mental health care a viable option. But the way we apply mental health care is still done via our disease care model. In other words, you must have a diagnosis FIRST. Then, there’s still the argument of how to pay for it for all those diagnosed. The largest issue politically at the moment is how to pay for disease care (it’s not healthcare). In addition, this particular crazy was quite wealthy and payment for mental health care wouldn’t have mattered. He would not have sought it out and even though if examined last week, would’ve been found to be in need of mental health care, those problems start years and years earlier before they can be diagnosed.
In the following days and weeks after we may have found out he WAS under mental care, even if, there is one thing that all mass shooters to date have had in common. It is use of psychotropic medication under mental health care. Antidepressants/stimulants. Either under the influence of legal prescriptive medication during the crime or just coming off of it.
Our culture likes drugs. We just do. Some in our culture even love the whole process of being diagnosed and treated medically or surgically. Some think it gives them individuality to be sick or have sick kids. Crazy, right? Worse, the profit motive by the pharm/med complex with more lobbyists in Washington than bankers, the defense industry or oil, keeps the conversation going in circles exclusively around how to pay for more drugs. We start our children’s education about the wonders of drugs early, beginning with vaccinations and antibiotics for ear infections, inhalers, stimulants so boys will focus, anxiolytics for teenage girls, Accutane for acne and antidepressants for sleep and we now have diabetes affecting kids like never before…. but our solution is drug based. Like it or not, that’s our culture.
What if instead of requiring vaccinations for daycare or kindergarten, you were required to take your child to the chiropractor to make sure she was neurologically fit? Free from any interference that would prevent her from mounting an effective immune response to pneumococcus (supposed most common cause of ear infection), or from not just playing with other kids, but digesting her food, creating healthy new cells as she grows instead of diseased ones. Developing her whole life able to accurately sense and respond to her environment.
What if we lived in a culture that required babies, when born, to be checked by a chiropractor to make sure their nervous system wasn’t damaged in the process of delivery under anesthesia, induced labor or
What if we lived in a culture and required the inattentive grade school boy to be evaluated for upper cervical subluxation causing inability to focus?
What if our culture demanded that the teenage girl be checked by a chiropractor BEFORE she was allowed to be put on Lithium, Wellbutrin or Paxil?
What if we lived in a culture that instead of premarital counseling required premarital chiropractic to optimize gene expression and passing on of healthy genes to the offspring, and maternal care that reduced or avoided birth interventions noted above?
What if the premarital parents’ parents were under chiropractic care THEIR whole life? What would be the effect generations later?
So back to Vegas guy. What if instead of growing up one of the children of a single mother struggling because their father was a criminal and in and out of jail and not a part of their lives, their father was taken to the chiropractor when HE was a child. In addition to normalizing his perception of the world by normalizing the nervous system activity so he would be able to respond more appropriately to those around him, he got the message that HIS parents loved him so much they wanted to make sure he was as healthy and vibrant as he could be. That message is communicated when a parent does things like prepare meals, goes to work to pay the bills for the family and takes the child to the doctor and dentist because he VALUES his child’s health. It doesn’t even need to be spoken. It’s not a stretch to suggest that father might still be parenting the children rather than in jail and the kids raised by their single mom in poverty.
Imagine you are now the child (the potential Vegas shooter), of THAT child raised in chiropractic, now grown and caring for you. In addition to you not missing your dad because he’s in jail, but now by making sure you have a good school, dental care and yes, make sure your nervous system is working at its best so that you can grow and develop to your full potential. Do you think it’s possible you could be this crazy guy that shoots people? I don’t think you could, because you’ve been surrounded by love and acts of love and sacrifice that would be apparent because you might be aware dad would maybe have to forgo a fishing boat or cable tv to make sure his family is healthy.
In my last attempt to connect the dots between nervous system damage caused by spinal subluxation and the inability to comprehend self and respond to environment, I can tell you more than a few thought my position audacious. And it is. But only because I have determined to create and different world for my kids and their kids than our drugged up, broken society which we increasingly accept as the new normal. If it were normal to have your baby checked by the chiropractor at birth…. if it were normal to have the parents checked and adjusted before they conceive….. if it were normal to visit the chiropractor regularly instead of the pill dispensing medical profession, my ideas wouldn’t sound so outlandish. It’s just the brainwashing we’ve all had that makes these ideas sound far-fetched. But, I believe it’s possible to make these changes. Mainly because if you follow the current trend, we are just going to see more and more of this unhinged crime. And most certainly we are going to bankrupt our country trying to keep doing more and more of the same, thinking we’re creating healthy people by prescribing more and “better” drugs.
I am going to keep working to create that new normal. Where EVERYONE gets checked and adjusted. If you would like to see that day too, please help us. Don’t let people walk around all subluxated and unable to sense and respond to their worlds. I saw an interview with the crazy guy’s brother. He was scratching his head for explanations. The explanation is he was disconnected from everyone and everything including the source of creation. Now that’s a big way to describe nerve interference which we commonly use the common descriptors of some of the effects of that process, like headaches and sciatica. However, it comes with far more impactful problems for some. Like depression, psychosis and paranoia. I’m not saying it’s the only cause of these things. (I just finished a book that blames the gut microbiome for these very same problems)… but people regularly in a chiropractic office where the doctors understand it ain’t about back pain, will learn how to eat healthy and create lifestyle changes that support normal function and health. This happens primarily due to better connection between man the physical and man the spiritual via the nervous system. If that were normal in our culture, that level of crazy would be unheard of or extremely rare.
Yesterday I and the other doctors rewrote our mission statement to clarify this. Here it is:
Vibrant Life Center
Creating Hope, Health and Happiness
Optimizing Nervous Systems, Nutrition, Lifestyle Coaching and Community Education to Spread World Peace.
Think that’s audacious? So, do I. As noted earlier, I have an acute appreciation for how short life can be. I’ve got to make a difference while I’m here.